She Drained the Glass

DonnaMy wife’s mother, Donna, had her doubts about me. The first time I met my Kathy’s parents Donna was the one who asked the probing questions. It was at a restaurant. I made sure I didn’t drink too much and kept my wits about me.

Over the years, however, Donna came to realize that I loved her daughter and she trusted me. That was a gift.

In fact I remember when I first introduced her to cider. She and her Husband Hank were visiting from San Antonio about a year ago. I usually fixed her a Manhattan or poured her a glass of wine. This time, I offered her cider.

“Will I like it?, she asked.

“Well, it’s got alcohol in it, it’s made from ripe apples and its pretty refreshing. So, yeah, what’s not to like,” I told her.

“Then I’ll have some.”

I poured her a glass.

“I like this, Tom! How much alcohol is it?”

I told her it was only about 7% alcohol. “Well, I still like this.”

I poured a variety of ciders for her over the past year. Ciders from Sonoma, Washington, New York and even her home state of Texas. I was on a mission to show her the good stuff. She never once turned up her nose. If I had more time, I could have turned her into a cider connoisseur.

Donna passed this morning from the shitty, awful disease Alzheimers. She had stopped eating and drinking.

Last night, she took her last liquids. It was a glass of hard cider. She requested it. And by all accounts, she drained the glass.

14 Responses to “She Drained the Glass”

  1. Robert & Beckie Potts

    Our sincerest condolences to Kathy, you and the rest of the family. She must have been wonderful to have raised such an amazing daughter. Prayers being sent to you all. God bless.

  2. Barbara Barshop

    Though I moved to California years ago, Donna was my friend for life. I was sure to visit with her every time we were in the same city. I am so sad.

    I will miss you, my good friend.

  3. Robin Cooper

    Tom Wark….you are a fine, fine man and a wonderful son-in-law. Thank you for sharing this and we feel your loss and send our love.

  4. Adrianne

    Your wife Kathy and I were friends growing up. I knew Donna since I was 3 or 4 years old. She was wonderful when the kids came over to play. She came to my mom’s funeral back in 2009. That was the last I saw of her. I am sorry for your loss. She will be missed

  5. Rochelle Gonzales

    I went to school with Kathy back in Texas and I remember her Mom. The students I attended school with seemed to know everyone’s Mom and Dad b/c we were a pretty close knit community. I lost my Mom in 2013 and can honestly say, you just don’t get over it and are reminded of her always. I know Kathy will heal in time, but please accept my condolences and big Hugs from Texas. Blessings to you all.

  6. Jenny Clough

    Such a loving tribute. My heart goes out to you, Kathy, Hank and everyone that loved her. I will keep you all in my prayers.
    Love, Jenny

  7. Claire

    This is a lovely tribute to Mrs. Berez. Kathy and her family lived on the street where I grew up. Lots of childhood memories! Prayers for all of you at this time. Claire

  8. Valerie Goode~Willis

    What sweet words. So happy Kathy has a wonderful husband. I went to school with Kathy in Texas and was at her house often through junior high and high school. Donna was a wonderful lady. Heart felt thoughts and prayers for each of you. I lost my mom at 53 to Brest CA 1993 and my dad to lung CA & Alzheimer’s 2003. My mom never got to see or meet my kids or grand babies. My heart breaks for Kathy and Hank and Andrew and whole family. Please give her a big hug for me. xoxo

  9. Jennifer

    God bless your family Kathy. I have fond memories of your family and living in the apartment with your Mom’s namesake 🙂

  10. Tim - brewer in Cincy

    Sorry to hear of your loss, brother. We’ve lost 3 family members over the last 2 years and our dog (13 years old). I’m sincere when I say I feel your pain. Praying for God’s comfort for you and your family especially at this time of year.

  11. Don Sulak

    Wonderful outpouring using words to convey feelings and emotions. Thanks for being so open that we all can feel and share in your in your family’s loss. Stay brave for Kathy and all the Berez family. Stay open to the love, prayers, and positive energy being sent your way. Peace.


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